Cool.
Tell me some of those. We previously…
I feel like because it was my first job and I grew up in New York City, and I was quite active growing up.
Even at university, I was a full-time athlete.
I was a sorority president.
I did all the very cliché stereotype stuff.
I felt like I could handle people until I actually went into the workforce and essentially became this 60-year-old guy’s boss.
There was a whole scheme to undermine me and remove me from office, etc., because I think me being his boss genuinely just hurt his pride.
That’s all it was.
I think just dealing with that and being very political with all of it taught me a lot of patience, but also not oversharing.
Because I think a lot, because I grew up American, I can sometimes overshare and think that everyone’s trustworthy.
But that experience genuinely taught me to keep things in, be more introverted when it comes to business, and just be careful who you trust.
Obviously, you know about the incident we had with the digital marketing company.
We will definitely come to that in a minute.
I definitely will.
But I do want to talk about the age thing because I think that’s something that a lot of founders are struggling with.
Lots of founders, of course, are getting younger and younger every day, right?
Everyone’s starting their own business of some kind.
But if you want to hire good quality people and you want to find people with experience, then a lot of the time they’ll be older than you.
If you have the mindset of, “I want to hire A players,” a lot of those A players need to have a certain number of years of experience to become A players, right?
So you’re often going to be managing people who are older than you.
They might also be men.
A lot of the time, older men don’t necessarily respond well to younger women being their bosses, like you said, and telling them what to do.
How have you managed to handle that?
Because I think that’s a difficulty for a lot of women out there, but also even young men who have older people as employees.
How do they gain respect?
Well, the most difficult thing is a lot of times these issues surface because you can feel it.
It’s a gut feeling.
People throw backhanded comments or they just want to undermine everything you do even though it’s not wrong.
Or they take ideas from you, etc.
It comes in all forms.
The hardest thing is probably proving it to HR and proving it to management that this is actually happening.
It’s not just in your head.
You’re not being crazy.
I think that was another issue.
A lot of times people like to say that girls in the workforce, just like in relationships, are being crazy.
They’re being emotional.
They’re being emotional.
They’re being crazy.
They’re being the B-word.
But that’s not true.
I think a lot of times people do things just below the line until you explode.
So my biggest thing was genuinely to record everything.
I would record calls.
I would record…
Even to this day, every day I record my exact activities and what I’ve done at work and what I’ve completed and what I didn’t complete but is halfway there.
So I started basically recording everything and making myself almost very transparent, then keeping a straight face at work.
Not showing too much of my personal personality and kind of using that as proof that I get things done.
It’s so difficult though because when I’m listening to that, I was like, I don’t want to be different at work.
I just want to be me.
Especially if you’re the founder, right?
Because most people who are listening to this or watching this, hi, I feel like they’re entrepreneurs, they’re founders, they’re running their own business.
So they can’t necessarily go to HR and report this.
Obviously, they might have HR, but a lot of people are small teams.
Yeah.
And so they’ve got to just deal with this dynamic.
I would hate as a founder that I have to be someone I’m not or dampen my own personality.
I’ve got kind of a big personality.
If I dampen it, it’s still going to be pretty big.
So I’m going to struggle with that.
I worry.
The whole recording everything sounds like I have to be quite paranoid.
I feel like that’s the lawyer in you coming out, right?
It’s like record everything, get the evidence.
But it’s hard.
It must be.
It is really, really hard.
Honestly, it’s quite tiring because, you know me personally, I can have quite a big personality.
I’m quite silly and I think I’m a jokester.
Not everyone likes a sense of humor.
So yeah, it is really, really difficult.
But I think time will tell with these kinds of things.
I think we’re in a really weird generation where our parents were part of this very sexist community where women stay at home and men go to work.
We’re in that weird generation where women still have the traditionally female jobs of being the caretaker, cooking, laundry, etc.
We naturally take it on because it’s what we watched our mothers do.
So regardless of how big of a feminist you are, it just naturally comes to you.
But at the same time, we have to compete at work and climb the corporate ladder.
I think time will kind of adjust things because I also entered a workforce with an older generation that came from that “women didn’t have a choice” era.
So to see me in the office was probably a shock to them.
Yeah.
And so I think time will probably change things.
But you didn’t start off like that.
You started off as a lawyer.
That’s what I was saying.
That’s the lawyer in you coming out.
You started off in law.
So how did you go?
You obviously went to law school, then got that job in the carbon credits fund, and then started your own business.
What made you do law in the first place and then how did you change?
It’s interesting you asked that, plus the conversation we just had, because I entered law out of self-protection.
Granted, I’m not a very maths person, so I was never going to go down the doctor route.
I grew up with quite traditional Chinese parents, so there were only a few options out there for me.
So I did a medical degree and then a law degree.
And then accounting, just to add all the professions that you’re allowed to do.
I had the choices of doing finance, medicine, but I’m squeamish, engineering, or law.
Yeah, engineering.
I also think teaching is quite a respected profession.
I feel like if you become a professor.
But I don’t like teaching, to be honest.
The constant standing up and talking.
Also, I don’t think people realize how long the hours are to be a teacher.
People think the job starts at 3:00.
No, they grade until like 2:00 a.m.
I still teach on the side as well.
It’s long and I’m exhausted.
I teach in primary schools as well as lecturing at universities.
It’s bad.
I mean, I’m nowhere near what you do.
I give Chinese lessons on Preply maybe twice a week and I honestly just feel like I can’t breathe.
Oh wow.
But yeah, I went into law out of self-protection for various reasons.
Growing up a minority immigrant in the States and how the politics really shifted.
I majored mainly in politics at university and I wanted to become a politician, and I still do.
I just think I’m taking more of the business route to it.
Then I did the whole law school scene.
I grew up with divorced parents.
I saw how messy that got.
I also saw in politics how unjust things can be, especially with American laws.
In general, day to day, I was always a bit scared of how things worked.
I didn’t know where things stood.
Then I got my first speeding ticket at 18 and had to go to court.
Through every life experience, I just realized that the one thing everyone really needs to know is how to protect themselves.
I grew up in South Brooklyn, right?
I grew up in a place called Bensonhurst, which if you guys look it up, is famous for mafia hitmen by the Italians.
It is known for that.
So I grew up there.
I went to a high school in Flatbush, Brooklyn, which is also known to be really bad.
I feel like I grew up in an environment that was very fight or flight.
A lot of the kids in my high school ended up in juvie or prison because they didn’t know how to protect themselves and they didn’t understand how the world worked.
It was quite an unfortunate environment.
Starting in high school, I was like, I don’t want to end up like that.
I need to do something with myself while at the same time protecting myself.
You don’t hear it now because I took voice speaking lessons, but I used to have the deepest South Brooklyn accent.
Oh, do it for me.
I want to hear it.
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I can’t say chocolate.
It’s “chaw-clate.”
Oh, do a whole full sentence.
I want to hear this.
I want to hear.
I mean, what do you want me to say?
The most common thing is, “I’m walking here.”
Is it like when you say coffee?
Yeah, I say “caw-fee.”
I took voice lessons because I was like, I don’t want to go out into the world and be…
Regardless if I’m a Harvard grad or whatever it is, people are going to hear your accent in an interview and judge you.
So I wanted to change my destiny.
I thought one of the most stable ways to do that would be law.
Interesting.
I’ve never heard anyone think about changing their profession because of the way they speak and the kind of image they have.
I come from Birmingham in the UK, which has got famously probably the worst possible accent you could have in the entire world.
It’s known to be the worst possible accent.
You maybe don’t hear it in me now, but a couple of drinks in, it comes stronger.
I’ve heard it before.
Yeah, exactly.
I don’t think I’m hiding it.
I’ve done public speaking.
I’m LAMDA trained, right?
I’ve never had a very strong accent, but when I get emotional or I get drunk, that’s when it’s really strong.
People just immediately think you’re stupid.
When you’re a woman, like you said, or when you are a minority woman, you already have so many more standards to go through and so much more to prove.
I guess you don’t want another thing thrown against you.
“Oh, she speaks badly too.”
Yeah, exactly.
That was the thing.
I was already an immigrant.
I’m a minority.
I don’t come from grand family money.
I grew up in South Brooklyn.
My legal address is Bensonhurst.
There was just so much kind of working against me in a way where my first impression entering the room…
If I was interviewing for a big law firm, chances are they would have picked someone else if I didn’t kind of perfect my image.
I know it sounds really bad and people are always like, “You should be proud of this.”
“You should be proud of that.”
I’m absolutely proud that I’m an immigrant.
I’m incredibly proud that I’m Chinese.
I’m a minority female.
I’m incredibly grateful to my parents for the sacrifices they made so that I could have a Western education.
But push comes to shove, I had to apply for company jobs.
I had to graduate with everyone else.
I had to go for university interviews in the most random suburban neighborhoods I’d never stepped foot in.
In New York State, there are three parts, right?
You have Upstate New York, which is a giant triangle.
Then you have Long Island.
Then you have this tiny, tiny dot of the five boroughs, which is New York City.
People don’t know this, but Upstate and Long Island are very conservative and not very diverse.
When I applied to university for scholarships, the university I ended up going to, I remember I had to go for an interview with one of the alumni.
She lived deep into Long Island, wealthy Long Island.
I think it was like a month’s worth of my babysitting money for me to even get a cab there and back.
When I entered her house, I was 17 at the time.
It was probably one of the biggest houses I’ve ever seen in my life.
She had a very, very different accent to mine.
I was just so shy and terrified.
I think that was one of the times where it just clicked in my head.
Figure it out or you’re forever going to be prey.
This is kind of funny, but I think it’s a really good analogy for anyone who’s watched Bridgerton.
Yeah.
I’ve just finished the fourth season yesterday.
You know what?
Can I just say I’m really mad I wasn’t hired.
[laughter]
Like, Sophie Beckett was brilliant though.
Yes.
But I could have been one of the sisters.
Oh, you could have been.
I could have been Posy.
[laughter]
I was going to say Posy was the nice one.
Don’t do the other one.
Yeah.
Season one kind of gives flashbacks of how Lady Danbury came to be who she is whilst helping the Duke of Hastings.
There was this scene where she visited him and realized he isn’t dead.
She said to him, “When I was a girl, I used to shiver at my own reflection…”
Then one day I just decided, fine, if I’m going to be scared of my own reflection, I’m going to make everyone else scared as well.
Every room I walk into, I want to be number one.
I want all eyes on me.
I want X, Y, Z.
So yeah, I literally went from being the nerdiest…
I was always an athlete.
I did diving growing up.
But I went from being this really, really quiet girl with an odd New York accent.
Looking back at my childhood videos, it is weird.
Even I find it weird because the deep New York accent comes from Southern Italian heritage.
But I was the only Asian kid in an Italian neighborhood at the time.
When you look at it, it’s like, why does this girl sound like that?
Because I used to sound like, you know, in the movie My Cousin Vinny.
Yeah, that was how I used to sound.
But obviously I don’t look Italian.
I’m not Italian.
It was really weird.
So I decided to change it.
Wow.
So you’re channeling your inner Lady Danbury.
Yeah, exactly.
I couldn’t even afford vocal lessons or speech lessons, so I went on YouTube.
Oh really?
So you’re using all the modern-day tools that everyone’s talking about.
You said ChatGPT helped you create your business and YouTube helped with your speaking lessons.
You’re using everyday technology.
I do believe in the American saying, “Pull yourself up by the bootstraps.”
No one is going to change your story or your destiny for you.
That’s on you.
Wow.
Actually, you were saying earlier about being proud of who you are.
I think there’s nothing wrong with being proud of your heritage and where you come from, but still wanting to be a better version of that.
If we aspire to be a better version of ourselves all the time, that whole 1% better every single day, we’re all better off for it.
It doesn’t mean we like ourselves any less before.
It doesn’t mean we are embarrassed by who we are.
It’s just growth.
It’s evolution.
I think that’s how everyone should see it.
Exactly.
It’s evolution.
That’s one of the things I absolutely hate when people say things like, “Oh, you shouldn’t be mad at this person for speaking the way they do or having the mannerisms they do because it’s very typical of a Chinese person.”
I get a lot of family members back home saying very ignorant things like that.
Because I’m westernized now, I get very bothered if people don’t hold the door or simple things like that.
Which is very Western.
It’s not really something you have in Asia.
But to me it’s like, okay, it is always nicer when someone holds a door for you and someone says bless you and you clean up after yourself and have basic social manners.
To me it’s like, yes, you can be proud of being Chinese, but that doesn’t mean everything to do with China is 100% correct or right.
That’s what I really, really hate.
Max and I had this conversation, a friend of ours, on his podcast about what really is growth and wealth and evolution.
To me, one of the great analogies is that the most popular perfumes and colognes right now are by major brands like Hermes, Dior, Gucci, and Chanel.
The famous Chanel No. 5.
Everyone talks about that, but they’re actually really bad quality.
Do you think?
Oh my God, I’ve got Coco Mademoiselle on right now.
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I love it.
I know.
Don’t get me wrong.
I own Coco Mademoiselle as well.
But they are actually really, really bad quality compared to, say, Emirati-made perfumes because they were known for scent for centuries.
They’re more oil-based, so they last longer.
To me it’s like, okay, yes, you’re buying this stuff technically for the brand name.
But if you were actually wealthy and educated yourself, you would understand that probably the best thing to do is get one from an Emirati brand that will last you longer.
It’s simple things like that that I don’t think the world has caught up to.
Yeah.
It does upset me because I think sometimes even my own people can be very, very stubborn.
I don’t think the US is 100% great on everything.
Trust me, I don’t think China’s great on everything.
Hell, I definitely don’t think the UK is great on everything.
But I think everyone would do a lot better and benefit if they were able to get rid of their pride and take bits and pieces of the positives and put them together.
So yeah.
So obviously having that corporate law background has been useful to your business in loads of different ways.
I know we want to talk about something that’s happened to you in your business as well, which was obviously very stressful for you and something you learned a lot from.
But how has being a corporate lawyer helped running SipZen?